Word of the Day: considerate
That is according to the song, What the World Needs Now is Love , by Hal David and Burt Bacharach and sung by Dionne Warwick and other recording artists. Also this lyric, “love, sweet love, it’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.” That thinking leads us to believe that there is not enough love to go around and so love becomes exclusive. So, how do we create “more” so that love becomes inclusive? I think a shortcut on the human highway just might be for people to check themselves, put a full measure in their considerate meter, and slow the narcissistic pace that is speeding us toward the end of the year of our Lord 2016.
I observe an increasingly distrustful attitude infusing interaction between people, rather than an expectant curiosity laced with good will. We seem to rush at being misunderstood instead of staying in the moment and taking a necessary pause in order to understand or be understood. We neglect the nuances of emotion and feeling in conversation by an increased reliance on text conversation and a decrease in verbal and face to face conversations. We can hear and see feelings in voices and faces. With texting? We decide which emoji to use.
Humor me with a few minutes of your reading time. Allow me to share my acronym for the word of the day – CONSIDERATE. It can even serve as a guide if you choose not to make your own.
Considerate (adjective) Origin 1565-75 Late Middle English
- showing kindly awareness or regard for another’s feelings.
Open the door for someone.
Never insult by naming someone as a noun. Or try at least. For example, do not say, “you are such a bitch.” Or, “you are a real dickhead.”
Say instead, for example, “you are acting quite cunty” or “quit acting so dang cocky.” Then, request different behavior from that person.
Invite someone under your umbrella when it’s raining pussycats and pups.
Decide every day, when confronted by a particular stressor for you, to be considerate rather than ill-mannered. For example, choose “yield” instead of road rage. Light will be generated.
Expect the boomerang effect when you throw shade because shade will always come back to you.
Rudeness can happen when you exonerate your own bad behavior and judge others that demonstrate the same.
Acting like a narcissist is so boorish and usually means “I am considerate of me, myself, and I”. Change the pronouns.
Treat someone to something. Have fun choosing the “something”.
Enjoy any kindness bestowed upon you. Be grateful. Remember the feeling.
Take a moment today. Call someone on the phone instead of texting them. Strike up a conversation with a stranger if the opportunity presents itself. Use kind regard driving on the road. Help someone out. Be in service to others. Believe that there is enough to go around.
Let’s face it, adding some “considerate” to our daily lives is like choosing Miracle-Gro® potting soil. Watch love flourish.